Frank Schofield, Superintendent, Logan City School District
For many families, summer months are significantly more relaxed than the school year, and children enjoy more flexibility in their schedules. The transition from the comparatively unstructured schedule of summer vacation to the greater structure of school can be challenging. One thing that can help with the transition, as well as support a child’s overall success and happiness, is the creation of consistent routines and schedules at home.
Children’s brains are in an ongoing state of development throughout their school years. Establishing consistent routines, at any age, have significant benefits, including the following:
- Children develop greater confidence in their world and their ability to navigate it when they know what to expect, and the responses to their actions are predictable.
- Consistent routines help develop confidence and self-dependence.
- Establishing routines helps students develop self-control.
- As children (and adults) feel the security that comes from being in a predictable environment, they have more energy for learning and creative endeavors.
Although there are significant benefits to following consistent routines at home, establishing those routines isn’t easy. Below are five ideas from education.com for establishing basic routines with children at home. The language used during each routine will change depending on the age of the children involved, but each of these routines can benefit families, regardless of the age of the family members.
- Plan at least one family meal together each day. This meal does not have to be dinner; even a 15-minute breakfast where everyone gets to share their plans for the day can be effective. Turn off the television and do not answer the phone during this family time. This is a great way to start a routine that allows children to take responsibility, even for something small, such as carrying the silverware to the table.
- Have a bedtime ritual. This helps children slowly calm down, and allows them to associate certain activities with getting sleepy. Think about what calms your child. Is it taking a bath? Reading a story? Listening to soft music? Always do the bedtime preparation in the same order, and ask your child questions like, “What do we do after we put on our pajamas?” A great item to include in the bedtime ritual is talking about your day. Let your child tell you what he or she did that day and prompt them if they forget. This part of the routine not only helps children with memory, time orientation, and language skills, but it also shows them that you care about what they did.
- Include preparation for transitions in the routine. For example, say, “We have 10 minutes left before we start getting ready for bed. When the big hand gets to the 12, it will be time to put on your pajamas.”
- Make the routine visual. Work together to make pictures that indicate each step of the routine, put the pictures in order on a colorful sheet of paper, and hang the finished product in your child’s room. You will not only be helping to build creativity in your child, but you will also be promoting self-sufficiency, as your child will be able to look at the pictures to identify what comes next.
- Don’t be too rigid. While routine is good, children do need to learn how be flexible and deal with minor changes. If there is an interruption to the routine, tell your child, “I know we usually do X, but today we are going to do Y because (reason). Tomorrow we will go back to our usual schedule.” If most of their day is predictable, young children will be able to deal with small changes, especially if they are prepared for the changes and see you modeling calm behavior as you deal with problems that occur.
It is never too late to start a routine. You set a good example for your child when you tell him or her, “The way that we have been doing things has not been working. We are going to try something new. Here is our new schedule.” While you should definitely be open to the fact that the schedule may need some adjustment, you also need to be firm in sticking to the new routine. Know ahead of time that your family may have difficulty adjusting, including potential resistance to the new routines. Be prepared with how you will handle this resistance and remain focused on the reasons you are establishing routines.
Consistent routines teach children how to arrange time in a manner that is efficient, productive, and cuts down on stress. This sense of order is not only important for making your child feel secure in the moment, but it will also allow your child to internalize an automatic sense of how to organize his or her own life as they grow up. The ability to then monitor, organize, and regulate both our surroundings and our responses to them contributes to greater health and success throughout a child’s life.